Most of the times we suppose things that are not even going to happen just because one smaller mishap came as an uninvited guest. It's like a string of thoughts one is pulling the other and buzzing out mind. Maybe we need to relax, strategize upcoming events or enjoy the small unplanned thing.
Love it. Loved the part that says you can be "Whether I spent the next four hours spiraling about it or the next twenty minutes rebooking, the gate was staying closed and I was getting on a later flight. The only thing actually up for debate was what proportion I gave that setback out of the entire trip."
Taking the step back to analyze seems a small action that may feel heavy in the middle of a storm. I have been reminding myself that as in any learning, is the repetition what consolidates the knowledge and am trying to build the muscle that let's me focus on a bigger picture. Been trying and holding space for when I forget or fall back in the old behavior.
I love this and will immediately start painting my problems with a similar reflection.
A nice build on this mental direction comes from the first line of the book The Road Less Travelled. It says, “Life is difficult.” Full stop.
Essentially, just like how you mentioned your grandmother’s struggles were ubiquitous and ever-present, and that she just had to shrug them off, we keep thinking that our lives aren’t the same as theirs, when in fact, life is the same: life is tough, and problems are simply part of it.
Holding our problems to our face makes them enormous, as you’ve said, and thinking that they aren’t normal makes them aberrations from the norm, when in fact, they are the norm; they are exactly what life is about.
And if we see them as a small part of our life AND as very normal, then we’ll stop seeing them as scary unwanted visitors.
Instead of enormous and unexpected, they become small and expected. Problem solved (sarcastic but well intended conclusion).
Always writing this when I need to hear them, you’re amazing.
Thanks for reading 🫶🏼🫶🏼
Most of the times we suppose things that are not even going to happen just because one smaller mishap came as an uninvited guest. It's like a string of thoughts one is pulling the other and buzzing out mind. Maybe we need to relax, strategize upcoming events or enjoy the small unplanned thing.
Even the mishaps come ones in life.
Thats totally my Opinion!!!
Love it. Loved the part that says you can be "Whether I spent the next four hours spiraling about it or the next twenty minutes rebooking, the gate was staying closed and I was getting on a later flight. The only thing actually up for debate was what proportion I gave that setback out of the entire trip."
I stumbled upon this piece exactly when i'm, really irritated over - small thing - now that i've read it. thank you for elaborating this
Taking the step back to analyze seems a small action that may feel heavy in the middle of a storm. I have been reminding myself that as in any learning, is the repetition what consolidates the knowledge and am trying to build the muscle that let's me focus on a bigger picture. Been trying and holding space for when I forget or fall back in the old behavior.
Anxiety can sometimes also kick in - a good reminder that you've been through a lot and you will be okay even if problems come your way.
Unless our life is built out of problems, we will see and feel that problems might not be problems at all, but situations.
Otherwise, who are we without problems? Why do we inflate them, if not for the attention they get?
I love this and will immediately start painting my problems with a similar reflection.
A nice build on this mental direction comes from the first line of the book The Road Less Travelled. It says, “Life is difficult.” Full stop.
Essentially, just like how you mentioned your grandmother’s struggles were ubiquitous and ever-present, and that she just had to shrug them off, we keep thinking that our lives aren’t the same as theirs, when in fact, life is the same: life is tough, and problems are simply part of it.
Holding our problems to our face makes them enormous, as you’ve said, and thinking that they aren’t normal makes them aberrations from the norm, when in fact, they are the norm; they are exactly what life is about.
And if we see them as a small part of our life AND as very normal, then we’ll stop seeing them as scary unwanted visitors.
Instead of enormous and unexpected, they become small and expected. Problem solved (sarcastic but well intended conclusion).